Moving In With Your Significant Other: Things To Consider

by CSA Staff on February 15th, 2022 in Apartments

By Ashley Paskill

Whether your leasing is running out or you are looking to figure out a new living arrangement, if you have a significant other who goes to the same school, you may be considering moving in with them. This is especially true if your friends are moving in with their significant others or are doing a different living arrangement. However, you may be wondering if your relationship is even ready for this step. Before making a commitment to living with your significant other, there are several things you should consider.

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Comfort level

Your apartment or house needs to be a space of comfort for you, and your significant other should be someone you are sharing a space with. Think about how you feel about your significant other and imagine moving in with them. If the thought makes you uneasy, you may want to hold off. This does not mean that you do not love your significant other, it just means your relationship is not at that level yet. Every relationship takes different amounts of time to progress, so it is okay if you do not feel comfortable moving in together yet, even if you have been together for a while.

Schedules and time spent together

As a college student, you have a busy life with classes, internships, studying, and student organizations. With all of this going on, you may feel like you do not see your significant other nearly enough. In this case, you may want to move in together just so you can see each other more often. You may even decide to move in together if you spend enough time at each other’s places anyway. Sit down with the other person and have a conversation about your upcoming schedules and see what free time you both have available. If there is very little time that you would be able to spend together, it makes sense to move in together so that you can see each other more.

Their roommates/your roommates

While you may move in just the two of you, you may also decide to have other roommates besides just you two. Your old roommates or the significant other’s roommates may be living with you. Having a large group of people may seem fun, especially when you are looking for something to do, but you need to be sure you and your significant other get along with everyone in the living space. If you all do not get along, you will not enjoy coming home to your space, which is not ideal since your living space should be somewhere you feel safe and comfortable.

Needed space and privacy

When you lived with yourself or even other roommates, you likely had your own space to call your own. You may have had at least your own bedroom that you could escape to if you needed some alone time. However, if you move in with your significant other, there is a chance you may lose this personal space, especially if you have other roommates living with the two of you. If you and your significant other get into an argument, it is harder to find space to step away, where you were able to before your moved in together. Taking your space and privacy into consideration is crucial so you know what you need in order to take care of your own needs.

Shared expenses

With any roommate situation, you have to share expenses on things such as rent, utilities, and groceries. Being able to split these expenses will help you save money, but this will also show you how responsible your significant other is. Sit down and make a plan for how much each person owes and who pays which bill. If you are still new in the relationship, this conversation might not be appropriate, so you may want to wait to move in together. Otherwise, you may be able to work through discussing finances.

No more mystery

When you and your significant other move in together, you will discover things about your partner that you never knew before. You will find out how messy they are and learn new quirky habits that you had no idea your partner had before moving in with each other. Moving in together will unveil any things that were hidden when you lived in separate spaces. If you are prepared to dive deeper and learn more about your partner, you may be ready to move in with each other. If not, you may want to focus more on getting to know each other more and becoming more comfortable with each other before living together. Consider going on a vacation together and sharing a sleeping space, as this will help simulate living together without the long-term commitment.

Moving in with your significant other may sound like a dream come true, but there are things you need to consider before making the commitment.

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